A Dating Philosophy

I thought I would give you a dating philosophy summary. I think this helps me as much as it helps you....  Here we go:

If a man/woman wants to see you, there is nothing that can keep them away. If a man/woman doesn’t want to see you, there is nothing you can do to make them stay.

Stop making excuses for a man/woman and their behavior. Allow your intuition to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that is not meant to be. Your gut instinct is ALWAYS right. It just may take longer for the message to get to your brain!

He is a man/She is a woman. Nothing more, nothing less. Jobs can be lost. Money can be spent. Waistlines and firmness change over time. What is on the inside is what matters. You might have the tightest abs in the world, but when you are 80, those abs will be gone, and all that will remain is the person with whom you are going to spend the rest of your life.

Never live your life for another person before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the other person was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no, you cannot “be friends.” Friends don’t mistreat other friends.

Don’t settle. EVER.

If you feel like the other person is stringing you along, s/he probably is.

If a person treats you like they don't care, guess what? They don't.

Don’t stay because you think it will probably ‘get better.’ You will kick yourself a year down the line when things aren’t better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Always have your own set of friends separate from hers/his.  If, when you are talking with your friends about your partner's inappropriate behavior, they start to make excuses for that person, find new friends to confide in. The "why" isn't important. The fact inappropriate behavior is present is what is truly significant, and nothing else matters.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy/gal treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

You cannot change someone else’s behavior. Change comes from within.

Never let someone else define who you are.

 

Never borrow someone else’s boy/girlfriend. If s/he cheats with you, s/he will cheat on you.

Compromise is a two-way street.

You need to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage, even if it is a matching set.

Dating is fun. When it stops being fun, you shouldn’t be dating.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of people stay in relationships that are hurtful. You should know that you are the best thing that could ever happen to someone else, and if someone takes that for granted, s/he is missing out on a good thing- YOU!

Lastly, if s/he was attracted to you in the first place, and s/he is not the one, do not worry. Think about it.....if s/he was looking, rest assured, others are looking too. You have a lot of choices- Make the right one.

Good luck!